Thursday, September 27, 2012

Its not about what you look like - but what you actually are,,,

I have often seen people address healthy people as “FAT”. It has frustrated me to a great extent and i thought of penning down the same today. There is no other way to vent out your frustration than blogging. So I would start off by quoting my favourite author here , “‘Fat’ is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her. I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me; but then, you might retort, what do I know about the pressure to be skinny” 

Out of all the things that one should she in a person , the entire goddamn point stops at “She/HE is FAT” . Yes , he is fat , but is that really important ? Is it the beauty within that counts and not the fake make up outside which can be erased with a cleanix right away ? One can join a gym and shed the extra flab , can you shed the extra flab greed , jealousy and hatred around your heart ?
Being fat effects your heart , but what about being an extremely pretty person and having a rotten soul ? Your internal decomposition process has already started and you have no clue.Being fat can just not earn the tag of “Beautiful or hot” , but how does it matter till you have a beautiful soul that actually understands the others and thinks a thousand times before hurling comments like “Fat , ugly and horrible” at others. I ask one simple question – WHY DOES IT MATTER TO YOU IF THE OTHER PERSON IS FAT ?  Is it because though they are not the skinny zero size like you are , they are still better off than you at most of the things ? Is it because though they haven’t starved themselves to death , people love and appreciate them for what they are ? Or is it because no matter what you do , you know you have a rotten soul , so much so , that no matter how much of make up you put up , you can never be as good as that “FAT” person. It is because you know they are better than you. No matter what you do ? I find calling someone fat and  making them feel small and bad about themselves an extremely coward , stupid , silly and saddist way of feeling good about yourself.I fail to understand how people resort to such means of gaining pleasure ?

Next time you call someone fat , STOP – THINK (the person you’re calling fat may be fighting a life threatening disease and surviving on medicines that make him gain weight. Is being FAT worse than succumbing to a disease and giving up ? the person you’re calling fat might be trying to starve himself to death just to fit in. Is being fat really bad than being a bully ? the person you’re calling FAT must be suffering from some genetic disorder. Is being fat worse than bringing bad name to the family or being a bad son/daughter ?) Next time you call someone fat , imagine yourself gaining 20 kg’s. Imagine that being the only option to be alive. What will you choose ? Being fat ? Or dying ?
Too often people address me as “FAT” or give me free advice “You need to shed some weight” . I mean DUDE . Stop ! I am not an addict , I am way better than you at several things , I cook for myself , I am a blogger , I can write and i have read more books than you have in you have even opened.” I might sound to be too self obsessed but isn’t that freaking more important than being the skinny zero size that you are ? On the other hand you are nothing but a moving example of the famous maxim that “Beauty and brains cant go hand and hand”. I choose to be FAT than skinny , i choose to eat , than starve myself to death just to fit into your size 0 obsessed world . I choose to be MYSELF than try and be someone for someone who doesn’t even care about WHO i actually am and focuses more on my physical beauty. Next time someone calls you fat just recite out loud “To hell with being skinny. I love the way I am. I will look at myself in the mirror and I’ll know i have a beautiful soul and YOU will look into the mirror and see your soul rottening. You’ll see yourself being pretty , being wanted for your physical beauty and once it will fade off , you wont be wanted anymore.Beauty is just ephemeral.While i will proudly be able to say i chose the people , who chose me for what i am from within.”
Feel good about what you are , who you are. It doesn’t matter if your waist size is 32 , 34 or 38. It doesn’t matter if you fit into XL jeans and tshirts. It doesn’t matter if you dont fit into the most trendy outfit available out there. All that matters is how you feel about yourself. How you feel about yourself. And trust me , start feeling good about what you are , how you are .I still remember THAT   friend of mine who once reminded me when i was low. Its been years now , but his words still ring in my ears..– “Everything thats beautiful need not be good. But everything thats good is certainly beautiful”